My Collar (Physical Considerations)

(Note: This post is about my physical slave collar, rather than traditions, meanings, or emotional aspects—subjects for another day.)

Decisions about my collar took several things into account.

We had started with the idea that it would be something I wore 24/7, not taking it off without a serious reason (like some sort of medical need). This created most of our considerations. It would also be a literal collar—around my neck.

We wanted it to be relatively tame in several ways: color, pattern, sizing—so it wouldn’t necessarily draw attention to itself, or seem mismatched, as I would be wearing it in public and in front of vanilla company such as family.

We wanted something that looked nice on me, but wasn’t too out of place for the everyday, that would fit in at a formal or casual event.

It had to be practical for any rough play we did, leashes when they were used; as it would be my only collar, it had to serve every function we needed—even if it wasn’t the main function.

We also considered comfort: in size, texture, and any other ways. We weren’t looking for a sadism device on my neck 24/7.

It also had to be of very good quality to not fall apart with constant wear.

Finally, it was important to both of us that we were both thrilled with it overall.

Then, other ideas became important. Mistress would make the collar herself—it would be one of a kind and personal. The collar would be permanent—in some way, physically unremovable.

Mistress made my collar around my neck as I knelt at her feet, a three hour process with the occasional short break to stretch.

It is made of natural hemp rope, fairly close fitting, with a small stainless steel shackle that attaches a stainless steel o-ring. At even its weakest point the collar can support far more than my body weight. It is permanent in that the only way to take it off is to destroy (cut) it. It is made of one piece of rope connected to itself via a long splice, and where each end of the splice meets, it’s reinforced with a palm and needle whipping.

And yes, we were both thrilled with the results.

On Choosing S-Type Uniforms

Most of this post is best suited for consideration when choosing a daily uniform/dress code, rather than one for scenes or events, which might need different considerations. This post is written as if talking to a D/M-type for simplicity.

Starting off, consider: what level of detail do you want to go into? Down to hex color codes, or “something blueish”? A specific dress, or “no pants”? Some details may be more important to you than others. Maybe polo shirts are really important, but hairstyle couldn’t matter less. Are you looking more to lay things out in terms of what’s okay, or what’s not okay?

Consider things that are more the surrounding rules than the uniform itself. What can be done without approval in the moment? What always needs approval? Are you planning on the occasional exception? Is it important to keep the uniform neat-looking?

Now consider the categories of clothes the s-type may have reason to wear. For example: daily, formalwear, activewear, swimwear, pajamas. You’ll want to make sure those are covered in some way. Do they have a job or any other obligations that require specific clothing—how can you work with that?

Within those, consider each item of clothing to be addressed. For example: shirts/tops, pants/bottoms, socks, underwear, bras, shoes, jackets. And accessories—can they be worn, which ones, when, and where on the body? If they wear any mark of ownership, such as a collar, that’s important to note. Are there any “features” that are important—having pockets, being waterproof?

Now think beyond clothes. Shaving rules? What about their nails? Makeup—if allowed, when, and what kind? Daily hairstyle? A step up: body mods. Piercings—if allowed, where, and what kind of jewelry? Tattoos—if allowed, where, and of what? Hair dye—what color? Cutting their hair—what style?

Consider some general concepts. Is it important that they look “submissive”—and what does that look like? Would you rather skew a little modest, or a little not? What do you yourself wear—and how do you want their sartorial choices to compare? Do you want a more plain everyday look, or something that stands out? Where do you want to fall on the casual/formal scale? If you’re weighing in the s-type’s opinion—what do they think of your ideas?

Now some practical matters. Are you okay with the vanilla world seeing this uniform, if they will? Is the uniform practical for what the s-type does with their time? Is it comfortable, if that’s important? How easily/quickly can you acquire it in the s-type’s size—now, and likely in the future? What amounts of money are involved, and who’s responsible? How does it fit the weather they’ll encounter—if there are big shifts between seasons, do you want the uniform to shift with it?

For reference, how my slave uniform currently works. Mistress chose a specific green dress that I wear every day. For the rest of my daily uniform, I wear black knee socks, a black bra, specific black underwear, my collar, and my smart watch (kept charged, and worn on my left wrist). My hair is to be left down. Shoes, if I wear them, are high top black sneakers. I’m allowed to choose my own jackets and pajamas. Other notes we have are that my uniform should look nice, clean, and of an appropriate size. Otherwise, I am to shave any body hair whenever I shower (my work inspected after), and keep my nails short. I’m allowed to add, remove, or change out uniform clothing items without prior permission if it is necessary to maintain a vanilla facade (say, asked to try something on by a vanilla family member), as long as I notify Mistress of it as soon as reasonably possible.

Anything and everything else is to be approved.