Service is an ephemeral art.
I was thinking this recently as I realized exactly how much of my job is doing the same thing over and over again. Not so much one special project so much as do the dishes, every day. Do the laundry, every day. Cook brunch and dinner, every day. Make the bed, every day. When there are more dishes or more laundry, do them again. When it’s nine-thirty or six again, cook again. When someone gets in the bed and out again, make it again. So on.
The effects disappear quickly and that is why the service here is really doing it every day, not once. I’ve talked about the real burden of little tasks being that they add up and that they recur—and it’s true. In the end, they add up to quite a bit to be allowed to take off an M-type’s plate.
As an example, Mistress likes to cook. She doesn’t like to cook to have dinner on the table at six every day, but she likes to cook. So I have dinner on the table at six every day, because I am more comfortable with those routines. And she gets to have the energy to cook when inspiration strikes.
The book Cooked by Michael Pollan talks about the idea that when something is mandatory, it’s work, and when something is an option, it’s leisure—that the distinction is not innate to the task itself. So when you had to hunt your own food, cook your own food, so on—it was work. In a world of pre-packaged meat and even frozen dinners, those become leisure activities.
So for me, cooking (having dinner on the table at six) is work. Required. Not because I live in a dimension without frozen dinners, or because I don’t enjoy it (I usually do enjoy it), but because it’s a requirement that Mistress set. For her, cooking is leisure—something she doesn’t have to do, but sometimes does. And when I bake cookies from scratch in the middle of the afternoon without being ordered to, it’s leisure, and my job is to shift as many things as I can from being work for her to being potential leisure.
And in that example, it’s easy to tell when the leisure task is done. A once off meal you were just inspired to make, once eaten, is done. The work version of a meal being on the table at a certain time is also kind of done when eaten, but it’s only done until you need to start the next meal, which might vary based on what you’re making or how far ahead you’re prepping, and that feeling of being done is a lot more ephemeral, a lot more caveats of for today or for this meal.
Meanwhile, I was reading Jenny Odell’s How to Do Nothing, and it mentioned the Manifesto for Maintenance Art. I looked it up, and noticed a quote:
“—after the revolution, who’s going to pick up the garbage on Monday morning?”
It speaks to a very real thing: that to change the world, you need the basics taken care of. That to keep that change made to the world while it keeps going even further, someone needs to maintain it.
And this makes that maintenance a world changing thing in itself, because it enables that change.
It enables leisure activities instead of work, and world changing instead of world maintenance. Because world changing might happen at once—but world maintenance happens every day, or else that maintained state fades away—an ephemeral way of being.
I find it very satisfying to be that enabling support.
It does mean, however, that your work never really feels done, because it’s only done until a point where it is undone that could come at any moment, especially when it’s domestic and thus you live surrounded by potential tasks.
On the other hand, it can be nice to always be able to find something useful to do. There isn’t room for terrible boredom or feeling unhelpful. The reason the effects disappear quickly is because the service is engrained in a person’s life that is an aggregate of all of those quick little tidbits—and the privilege of making all of that flow smoothly is something to be valued.