Note: Reading bolded posts first will give you the quickest idea of me/the blog, in my opinion. Not required!

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On 24/7

On 24/7 #2


Decision Making and Internal Enslavement: A Metaphor

No Safewords, No Limits: An Elaboration

Shaming of “Unethical” Dynamics Within the Community

Why I Chose Irrevocable Consent as a Label, What It Means to Me, and Why I Write About It


Principles Up: What Las Vegas TNG Will Be

Why I Teach (Or, the Biggest “I Told You So” Moment of My Life)

Day in the Slave Life

Anecdote Collection

My General Daily Schedule

Lifestyle Masochism

#1 (Asking to Masturbate)

#2 (Stay Still)

#3 (Your Presence Is Requested)

What I Talk About When I Talk About Masochism

When You Start Acting Abused


24/7 High Protocol: First Thing in the Morning

“But How Do You Just Hang Out?”: High Protocol in 24/7 Dynamics

Higher Protocol Levels: The More Natural-Seeming the Dance, the More Thought-Out the Choreography

Honorifics: A Fascination

My Typical Day, Told in Slave Positions

Noticing the Fork: How the Little Protocols Add Up

On Asking Permission vs. Being Offered It

On Refining Protocols

Protocols in a New Place

Uniforms and Challenges, the Literal and a Metaphor

What Protocol Really Says

What Protocol Really Says, Again


Balancing Control and Decision-Making as a Service

Choosing Service

Creating a Butler’s Book

Digital Productivity

I Don’t Think of Self Care as Service

Invisible Anticipatory Service, Setting Your Own Recurring Tasks, and Some Advice

Learning in Anticipatory Service, and Some Advice

My Style of Entertaining, and Where I Got It From

On Service Settings and Headspace

Our Guest Manual

Selecting Service Tasks in a World of Automation and Outsourcing

Service Is an Ephemeral Art

Some Services S-Types Can Offer

Service Skills


Cooking (Recipes)

Flower Arranging

Giving a Pedicure

Hosting at Home

Making Tea

Making the Bed

Napkin Folding

Setting the Table


Using Homemade/Natural Cleaners


A Moment—Chronic Fatigue in M/s

Being a Slave Isn’t Easy

I’ve Always Been Like This

Letting Your M-Type Have It All

My Collar: Physical Considerations

On Potato Peeling and Shakespearean Sonnets (Or, “Is It More Submissive to Enjoy Everything You’re Ordered to Do, or to Dislike Those Tasks but Do Them Anyway?”)

Recommended Resources

Service Slave Tendency Identification with Limited Kink Experience

The Slave Bell (Our Pager System)

Why I Live M/s

Why I Sleep on the Floor

Tales From the Butler Academy

1: I’m a Slave; Why Am I Going to Butler School?

2: Etiquette Drills and Compassion

3: The “Butler’s” Relationship With Their “Employer”


Control/Service-Oriented and Anticipatory/Reactive Service

M/s vs. D/s

On the Linguistics of Being a Kinky Author, Regardless of What You’re Writing

Our Contract

Sadism vs. CNC

The Benefits of Silence

(The Benefits of Silence #2) A Weekend Vow of Silence